My dad took his own life when I was 3 years old. For years I blamed my mum. At times I even blamed myself for adding to his stress. That blame only brought more grief and pain. It wasn't my mums fault, and it wasn't mine. The pain never goes away, but talking about it helps to manage and better understand it.

Victim blaming is a second violation. It shifts blame from those who caused harm onto those who suffered it. Perpetrators know the disgust and disgrace they face if exposed, so they lie, manipulate, and recast themselves as the victim. It’s deliberate. It silences the truth, isolates the harmed, and protects those responsible. Ending it means refusing the lie and placing accountability where it belongs.

Its not your fault

Its not your fault. Stay strong whanau staying strong. This too will pass. Be kind to yourself. Live in love not pain.

I am an abuse as child and teen #survivor.Of victim blaming too.Never let them do it now.One of essential few.Never allow it

If the story you tell is unbelievable it is not because it didn't happen, but because it shouldn't happen. Blaming someone for something that shouldn't have happened is just silly. Know that you are dealing with sillyness when, as a victim, you are accused. Stand your ground.